#thefemistdilema

As conscious women we often spend a lot of wasted time explaining that feminism is not about hating men and growing out our armpit hair. Both men and women are so quick to vilanize the term feminism as an exclusionary term to bring men down, or lift women up alone, when that is far from the truth. I am a proud feminist who loves humans, of all shapes, sizes, colors, and gender. I believe that we are all equal and we need to stop dividing ourselves by arbitrary socially constructed classifications. We have this concept that because most people seem to live up to the social idea of who they are based on gender and race, that these standards are actual hard-wired into our DNA, and this is far from the truth. While there are small differences between young boys and girls in terms of emotional IQ as children, this gap widens exponentially as they get older, but why? People like to believe that it’s biological, and to a certain extent it is, however studies are starting to show that experiences can highly influence the biological makeup of our brains. No study has conclusively found that gender is all nurture and no nature, or vise versa, what they have found is that gender is more fluid than we allow it to be. We have created such rigid standards for gender for both men and women that it becomes hard for us to live up to those ideals, and at the same time it is hard to live outside of those ideals, both because of social pressures, and the way those social pressures affect the way our brains develop. What people often don’t realize about feminism is that we want to break down gender stereotypes for both genders, fight against the idea that women are inherently emotional and that men are inherently not, that boys have to be strong and tough and women damsels in distress, that an empowered woman is a bitch while an empowered man is assertive. Putting ourselves and our fellow man in boxes of gender creates a repressed society of people scared to be themselves. It would be so beautiful to have the opportunity to see how diverse and interesting this world could be if people just felt free to be who the really are.
Now the social concept of race, is far more complicated, I can’t begin to dive into it right now, but what I will say is that I believe that in a society where race didn’t matter then race wouldn’t matter. It’s so simple because there really are no inherent differences between races outside of aesthetics. If we didn’t work so hard to divide ourselves, then we would be able to live as the human race and not hate other people because they have more or less melanin than us. Racism wouldn’t happen because we would all be born into the same opportunities, and we would see each other as equals. That’s the America, and world that I want to live in.

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